One of people's greatest fears is public speaking and presenting a speech at a wedding can create anxiety in the best of people.  What do I say?  Will it be funny?  While we cannot remove any nervousness, we can give you some ideas of what to put in your speech to help give you a little more confidence.

The normal structure of your wedding speech depends upon the speech you are giving - whether it is as the best man, bride, groom or father of the bride.

Father of the Bride Speech

Traditionally you are the person who was paying for the wedding so it usually falls to you to start off the speeches.

- Welcome everyone to the wedding and the groom's parents into the family

- Say how beautiful the bride looks (you then have the chance to recount a story about when she was younger) 

- Welcome the groom into the family 

- Offer some advice or words of wisdom about married life (often a good place to tell a joke or two) 

- Thank anyone who has made the wedding special (caterers, vicar etc) - Propose a toast to the bride and groom 

If you do not have a master of ceremonies you will then need to introduce the groom to speak.

Bride Groom's Speech

You start by welcoming everyone into the family and often to make a point of praising people who have come out of their way to be present. 

You thank the bride's parents for raising such a nice daughter (historically this was to thank them for giving you her hand in marriage)

- You give some thanks to people who have made the wedding or reception special 

- You say some nice words about the bride

- You propose a toast to the bridesmaids

- You also thank the best man for coming and you have the option to say a few brief words about him

If you do not have a master of ceremonies you then introduce the Best Man to speak.

Best man speech

You start by thanking the groom for asking you to be his best man.

- You tell a few funny stories about the Groom

- If you know the bride, you may be able to tell a few anecdotes about the bride (be extra careful about this)

- You have the option to read out a couple of cards from people who were not able to attend (be brief on this as it can be a bit boring for the audience)

- If you like you could propose a final toast to the bride and groom - wishing them happiness in their life together.

If there is no master of ceremonies you will need to introduce the next item - cutting of the cake - or thank the audience and invite them to carry on with enjoying themselves.

Bride's speech

There is no traditional formal structure to a bride's speech - mainly as in the Victorian past it was only men who were expected to speak. However as a guide I would recommend the following structure.

- Thank everyone for coming 

- Highlight any people who would like to have come, but were unable to come due to poor health

- Possibly tell the story of how you met the groom (if appropriate)

- Tell an amusing story